********any pictures of this event have been withheld from this blog to protect the young and stupid ignorant*********
Let me start by saying that I've been recently cleaning out and boxing up my eldest daughter's room. She is now in college and hasn't been home for over a year. Her room is a shrine to middle school as she went away for high school, and the angst that oozes from that place is difficult to live in so I take this cleaning out in small doses. (I am excited to have a sewing room though, so I go up there frequently to wade through the stuff.)
Let me start by saying that many people tell me they'd love to be young again, "knowing what they know now." Re-live Middle and High School?! Not. Me. Isn't the point of being young that you DON'T know much. Plus you're dealing with tons of changing hormones and uncertainty. I may be achy and slow, but I wouldn't EVER want to relive that stuff. My calmer demeanor is a much happier place to live. Being settled and balanced is a Libra thing. And did I mention it is my birthday today?
Let me start by saying that the Middle School dance my poor, patient, sweet husband and I chaperoned for our youngest daughter, Seeta, last night was LOUD. The kids were hysterical to watch. The music was LOUD. The kids were sad to watch. The music was REALLY LOUD. Of course I don't really understand the working mind of the average 12 to 14 year old and, oh - did I mention that it was LOUD?! A much needed glass of wine greeted me when we got home - or was that whine? I thought so.
Let me start by saying that it wasn't really a DANCE, per say, as much as it was a three hour recess in a dark gym with really loud music (I'm sure I've mentioned that before) and for the most part, the kids were bored, so they found ways to entertain themselves that mostly bordered on mischief. I can see why kids feel compelled to attend (one must see & be seen after all) and why they would not want to be there (the social pressure is huge.)
OK, so I'm not really just starting any more, but I am stuttering my start since this was such a traumatic event for me! I might take days to recover and I might even have to do some of my own dancing the funky chicken in my kitchen (and singing loudly) to recover... and that would not be a pretty thing.
Since our school hosted this dance, all proceeds went towards the eighth grade trip and graduation expenses and Seeta's class earned about $300. The one thing I liked was that is wasn't my daughter's class (or even kids from our school) that misbehaved, it was their so called guests from the next town over. So, the observations about this age group start with my inability as an adult to understand why kids pay money to socialize and then immediately start texting on cell phones, listening to ipods or playing gameboys - something they could have done alone and saved money on by not attending a social function. I do realize that as an adult I will never understand this kind of thing.
As a casual observer I noticed that the popular kids are doing a lot of posturing. It's hard work making sure that you keep your status of 'hot stuff' or 'cool dude' or however it is referred to these days. The unpopular kids were buzzing like insects around the popular kids trying to get their attention, and either annoying the populars and almost starting fights or getting teased badly. This figuring out how to fit in stuff, is hard!
As a parent observer, I was appalled at the lack of manners/respect the kids showed. I felt obliged to pick up after the mongrels who dropped lollipop sticks, food wrappers and water/gatorade bottles so our gym floor wouldn't get ruined. I know these kids don't go around dropping garbage on the floor at home or anywhere else, why do they lose civilized practice in this circumstance? Perhaps it was the over-consumption of sugar. There were lollipops, jolly ranchers, and twizzlers - to name but a few kinds of candy sold - by the giant bagfuls... how else do you suppose we earned all that money?
So our school's kids have to host a dance every other month and there are 4 more scheduled this school year. The question I have is... can I bring my cell phone/ipod/gameboy/ (or more realistically) knitting project with me the next time I have to chaperon?
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